The Danger Of Comparison In A Media Rich World

If you flick through a magazine, surf online or switch on the TV and seek out the beautiful people, and then compare their apparent ‘perfection’ to your own ‘flaws’ how does that make you feel? Bad huh?

It’s a sure-fire way to see your self-confidence plummet, it’s not a useful exercise and it serves no useful purpose. Yet most of us do it at one time or another – and a whole lot of us do it way too frequently.

The Danger Of Comparison In A Media Rich World

If I look at the images on the blogs of twenty somethings who have amazing bodies and wrinkle-free skin, and I then look at my outfit shoots, I don’t come close to measuring up. In fact, you might say that I look pretty bad.

But hang on a second; that’s not a fair comparison. Should I get out of blogging, get depressed, be jealous or resentful just because I’m not in my twenties? Of course not! Instead I look at my strengths: I write honest posts about my life, health and fashion. I write helpful posts for mature women who may be struggling to be the ‘real’ them. I have a whole lot to offer – and that makes me happy.

Being able to seek out and celebrate your own strengths and see your true value is a powerful thing. Without this ability you can be unmotivated and lack belief in yourself.

So how do we stop comparing?

Be aware of what is going through your mind when you are immersed in media. Most of the time we compare ourselves to others without even realising we’re doing it. It’s an act that is done without consciousness.  The solution? Become conscious.

By being aware you will be able to spot when you are going down the comparison road. Simply tell yourself to stop, “Stop it!” Don’t have a go at yourself or feel bad about making the comparison – simply acknowledge that you are doing it and change focus. Then fill your mind with thoughts of the things you can do, the things you love, the people in your life and your attributes.

We all do it at some time or the other; compare ourselves to the 'beautiful people'. But the danger of comparison in a media rich world strong, so how do we stop?

Focus on your strengths but be OK with your imperfections. Not one person in this world is perfect, and deep down we know this. It is human nature to strive for perfection, but we will never be perfect. Sure, we should all keep trying to improve, but absolute perfection is unachievable – and that’s OK! Let’s look at it from a different angle. Your imperfections are what makes you, you – so you are already perfect!

Try to focus on the journey of life. Life is not a competition, don’t worry about how you rank in comparison to others. We are all on a journey together – to become something, to find something, to learn, to create, to love. Our journey is about what we want to do, and where we want to go.

Know that you are enough. Be good with that, and you’ll find contentment.



  1. April 29, 2016 / 5:04 am

    Oh I love this Michelle & you are so bang on about consciousness. I have the advantage of having worked as a make up artist in TV & editorial so I’m fully aware of “the big lie” that the media spins to us. I understand many women take what they see at face value though & that’s a shame. Absolutely nobody is perfect that’s a fact – Yet we are all perfectly fabulous aren’t we?
    Sadly I didn’t realise this in my youth, although I do now. I guess it’s called growing up? I do regret not knowing my own worth back then, comparing myself to “more successful women” got me nowhere.
    Now I compare myself to me & try to better that version where ever I can. Whether that’s in a spiritual way or physical it’s all good.

    • May 11, 2016 / 9:39 am

      “We are all perfectly fabulous” – love that Michelle! I may steal it.
      I think most of us can look back at our youth and see the comparisons we made and the way it shaped our thinking. I’m glad to have got to an age where I know who I am and how I got here. It’s now simply a case of being the best me I can 🙂
      Michelle xx

  2. May 1, 2016 / 9:34 pm

    ‘Comparison is the thief of joy’ and in this online world where everything is photoshopped, re-shot, perfected, filtered and engineered to look perfect, it is very easy to feel like an ugly duckling! If you’re an ambitious person, you’re never completely satisfied with what you have, but sometimes it is good to shut down the ambition and be happy for all the blessings on your doorstep. You’re so right, consciousness is key. xx

    • May 11, 2016 / 9:45 am

      I don’t think there is one person in the world who has a completely ‘Intagrammable’ life. Yet we all look that the ‘perfection’ that surrounds us and are sucked in to believing it – if even for the briefest of moments. And you are correct – the more ambitious a person the more determined we are to have that ‘perfection’. So yes, consciousness is certainly key.
      Michelle xxx

  3. May 6, 2016 / 8:17 pm

    Thank you for this great post, Michelle! From an insider friend I have also heard about all the fakes and lies… too bad we are often still tempted to believe “they” are all so much prettier, thinner, wrinkle free and “wake up like this!”

    Annette | Lady of Style

    • May 11, 2016 / 9:26 am

      I’m glad you enjoyed the post Annette, and let’s resist the temptation to believe the lies together 🙂
      Michelle xxx

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