Tomorrow Is My Fifth Wedding Anniversary

Tomorrow is my fifth wedding anniversary. Five years ago today I was anticipating walking down the aisle to say my vows. It seems to have flown by in a flash of busy days, sad days, laughter-filled days, worry-filled days and, of course, love-filled days.

Yet actually, there is no ‘of course’ when it comes to love – it isn’t a given that binding, lasting love follows on from ‘I do’. Love, like all good things in life, takes work – lots and lots of hard work.

Tomorrow is my fifth wedding anniversary. In this post I contemplate the work it takes to keep a marriage strong and look back at five year.

Because life is messy; the good and bad lie in glorious juxtaposition. It is a charmed life indeed that doesn’t suffer at least a sprinkling of stress, I believe it’s how we deal with that stress that makes for a strong marriage.

How do Mr Chic and I deal with the bad days? We laugh – a lot! And talk – even more! We decided early on in our relationship to be open about our feelings, to not let worries and anger fester. We both know that we can air our grievances and that we will be listened to with care and respect.

So far this tactic has worked, so much so that in the eight years we have been together we have only had two arguments. Now that’s not saying there is anything wrong with a gold old barney, I know some couples who positively thrive on a shouting match once in a while. But it’s not for us.

It hasn’t been the easiest five years: a broken back and neck, a broken derrière, the death of close relatives, moving to Yorkshire, some seriously lean times, a suspected heart attack. Yet, despite the crap that life has thrown at us, the last five years have genuinely been the happiest of my life. If we get a run of really good luck, I may very well explode with joy!

Tomorrow Is My Fifth Anniversary - Contemplating Marriage | Long lasting love does not naturally follow on from the words "I do". In this post I explore my five year marriage, talk about some of the tactics we use to keep our marriage strong and admit just how much I love my husband.

Despite the rough patches, there have been some major highlights in the last five years. When we crack open a bottle later this evening we’ll be toasting to:

  • Our daughter getting engaged
  • The birth of this blog
  • Achieving our dream of traveling across Europe in a soft top
  • This blog being nominated for a UK Blog Award
  • Starting a new software company
  • Making new friends
  • Putting the house on the market (in order to move back to Wales)
  • Mr Chic making a full recovery

That’s a whole lot to be thankful for. But if you’re listening universe, bring on the unlimited joy – risk of exploding or not, I’ll take my chances!


Above: slideshow of our wedding.

Looking back, it’s hard to believe how much I have evolved. I had already began my journey to become the real me before meeting Mr Chic, but he’s definitely eased the transition from ‘sad little bird’ to ‘slightly demented out of tune nightingale’. And for that, I will be forever grateful.

And if your reading this husband of mine know this – you are, and will forever be, my soulmate. We have faced dark times, but we have faced them together, as we always will. You have my heart, my gratitude and my future. I will love you, always!

Had I the heavens’ embroidered cloths,
Enwrought with golden and silver light,
The blue and the dim and the dark cloths
Of night and light and the half light,
I would spread the cloths under your feet:
But I, being poor, have only my dreams;
I have spread my dreams under your feet;
Tread softly because you tread on my dreams.

Cheerio.

8 Comments

  1. April 1, 2016 / 4:02 pm

    Oh Michelle, I’m in tears reading this. Huge congratulations to you, you deranged nightingale and to the Mr too. You write from the heart but with such humour and warmth. It’s so wonderful to know that you are with your soulmate and being able to talk openly and honestly is surely the key. Enjoy your weekend and congratulations again xxxxxxxx

  2. April 1, 2016 / 4:49 pm

    Thank you so much Liz!
    I have a bottle (or two) chilling, I’ve cooked up a storm, all I now need is my husband – who is stuck on the M62. Fingers crossed he’ll be home soon.
    Michelle xx

  3. April 1, 2016 / 6:16 pm

    Michelle, I absolutely loved the video!! It is so full of romance yet authentic!
    Congratulations on your wedding anniversary and many more years together…

    xx
    Annette | Lady of Style

    • April 4, 2016 / 3:25 pm

      Thank you so much Annette. I’m glad you liked the video, I think it captures ‘us’.
      Michelle xx

  4. April 3, 2016 / 11:10 pm

    Such an uplifting story Michelle, thank you so much for sharing a small part of your amazing life xxx

  5. April 4, 2016 / 8:39 am

    Wow. Happy Anniversary to you two. I wish you years of joy and happiness together. Your video is breathtaking, and I would marry any man wearing zebra shoes to his wedding. That is a man with confidence and style in spades! “Slightly demented out of tune nightingale” may not be the first way I would describe you, but I love that so much! You are one of a kind, dear lady. xx

    • April 4, 2016 / 3:28 pm

      Yep, I only love him for his zebra print shoes! I’m trying to persuade him to wear them to the blog awards 🙂
      I’m so glad you enjoyed the video Lisa.
      Michelle xx

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