Throwing Off My Cloak Of Invisibility And The Midlife Support Forum

Hello. Is anybody there? Can you see me? Have you all wandered off to find blogs that don’t disappear on you without warning? I can’t say I’d blame you, but I’m hoping you’re still there waiting for my blog to throw off its cloak of invisibility.

Yep, for the last week or so, due to HUGE technical issues that I won’t bore you with, I have been the invisible blog. And being invisible is so much harder than I thought it would be. Even with the work I’ve done on myself to change how I define success to internal measures, and not external validation – it was hard.

A computer showing 'maintenance mode' to introduce the midlife support forum.

In this world of internet entrepreneurship, there is always some bright and shiny new blog being launched and some bright and shiny new face making a splash. Unlike when I took a blogging break, I wasn’t deliberately choosing radio silence – this hiatus was forced onto me by technology. And I worried. I worried that my blog would start losing ground. Go backwards. Miss out. And you would forget about me.

I also worried about this post. It’s not as if I paved the way for my blackout by explaining what was happening and why. Nope, I was there one minute and gone the next – like Ice-cream on a hot day. How could I explain just how hard it was to not be able to share my life with you? How soul-destroying it is to switch on ‘Maintenance Mode’ and know that it’s akin to slamming a door in the face of readers?

Another part of me knew that I was being ridiculous, but the anxiety was still there. The little devil whispering, “There’s nobody there you know. Don’t bother putting a post up because there’s nobody there to read it.”

And that’s when it hit me – how many midlife women out there are feeling this way. Not about bogging but about life? How many women KNOW that there is nobody out there to listen to them? KNOW that nobody will understand their worries and fears as they move on to the next stage in their lives?

So I’ve decided to do something about it. Alongside a bit of a blog makeover, well I had to do something while the gremlins were being sorted, I’m launching a forum – The Midlife Support Forum. I’m hoping that it will be a great place for midlife women to find assurance from other, likeminded women. A safe haven for women who may be hitting midlife obstacles, or have faced these obstacles and pushed their way through to a brighter midlife. A place to garner support and encouragement as we wander down the midlife path and forge a life that is awesome. A place to thrive in midlife, not merely survive.

This enforced cloak of invisibility has served to remind me just how much we midlife women need each other. We are stronger together, and we CAN conquer our fears of ageing and have a wondrous midlife. Want to join me?

You will find access to the Midlife Support Forum forum on both the sidebar and the navigation bar. There is no fee for joining and it only takes a minute. See you there!



  1. October 8, 2016 / 6:35 pm

    So fantastic to have you back Michelle! I absolutely love the new look you clever lady xxx

    • October 8, 2016 / 6:42 pm

      I’m so pleased to be back! I can’t tell you how much I’ve missed this little space of mine.

      Michelle xxx

  2. October 8, 2016 / 6:36 pm

    Michelle we all missed you – but we knew you weren’t staying away forever, you have too many fabulous things to say!! The new blog design looks so clean and fresh and gorgeous (love the header!), I’m really glad you got it sorted in the end.

    The idea to start a forum is a fantastic one. I’m sure there are loads of women going through midlife who need this sort of support, and you are the perfect person to give it… You’ve had your fair share of s**t in your life and I can vouch for the fact that despite it all you’re still a super positive, warm and wonderfully giving person!

    Good luck with the forum, I’ll do my best to promote it across my channels 🙂

    Catherine xx

    • October 8, 2016 / 6:44 pm

      I’m glad you like it Catherine. As you know, it was a bloody nightmare to sort, but it was sooooooo worth it!

      I really hope the forum takes off, and thank you so much for your support and friendship. Without it (and the support of some other very special ladies) I think I might have thrown the towel in last week.

      Much love
      Michelle xxx

  3. Charli
    October 8, 2016 / 10:27 pm

    Of course we haven’t forgotten you! We would never! 🙂

    • October 9, 2016 / 9:32 am

      Ah thank you Charli. I was rather worried, especially as the gremlins hit so soon after I took a bit of a blogging break!

      Michelle xx

  4. October 9, 2016 / 5:34 pm

    Looking forward to the forum Michelle – sounds like a great idea! Your blog looks lovely too

  5. Trish
    October 9, 2016 / 8:20 pm

    So glad you’re back. And I love the idea of the support forum and as soon as I finish commenting I intend to join. I’ve been feeling very invisible lately; at home, shopping (even on-line shopping), at the kids events and even the supermarket. Thanks for thinking of us.

    • October 24, 2016 / 12:46 pm

      You’re more thank welcome Trish. We ladies need to stick together

      Michelle xxx

  6. October 10, 2016 / 7:34 am

    Very nice! I m looking forward to the forum!

  7. October 10, 2016 / 9:31 am

    Welcome back to the Blogosphere, Michelle, and well done for creating the forum. It is a super idea. EVERYONE needs support at some point in their lives. The internet can be a scary place, but it can also be a positive place because anonymity gives you the freedom to share things that you might not share in your immediate community at home.

    LOVE the redesign!

    • October 24, 2016 / 12:48 pm

      Thanks Lisa.

      I’m really hoping the forum takes off. As you say, we all need a bit of support from time-to-time – let’s hope the forum can provide it.

      Michelle xxx

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