We’re about to start a brand New Year, and many of us are exhilarated by the thought of a fresh start. Every year, January brushes away the cobwebs of the old year and we are filled with renewed optimism for change. We make plans to change ourselves and our lives, we shed the baggage of the past year and look with eager eyes to the future.
It’s the time of year when even the most pessimistic among us are filled with renewed optimism for change. And that, my friends, is an incredible gift.
But what if we are disappointed in ourselves? What if we look back at 2017 with regret? What if we didn’t achieve our goals, didn’t stick to our resolutions and are now left frustrated and remorseful?
We ALL sometimes feel that we have failed, that we could be so much more, or achieve so much more. We don’t always live up to our own standards:
- We don’t stick to good habits
- We aren’t as productive as we had planned to be
- We leave tasks undone
- We fail to be the best wife, mother or friend
- We aren’t as disciplined as we would like to be
- We don’t stick to a healthy eating plan
- We don’t exercise as much as we know we should
We know we should be doing the right thing, but we don’t. And that can be disappointing and extremely frustrating.
Personally: I know I haven’t eaten as healthily as I should have done, I’ve put on a lot of weight, I haven’t stuck to an exercise routine, I haven’t always spent as much time with my family and friends as I would like to, I have (on occasion) bitten off more than I can chew and I have allowed myself to get too caught up in my whirlwind life.
Now I could look back at 2017 and be so wrapped up in what I haven’t done that I am blinded to my achievements. I could allow feelings of failure to blinker my mind to my successes. So let’s all take a step back and look at the past year with a mind unfettered with frustration.
Yet how do we do that? How do we greet the New Year without regrets?
1. Let it go – our failures weave a tangled web of emotions. We worry, we stress, we feel sad or upset, we pick over our mistakes as a vulture picks over a carcass. I know it’s easier said than done but LET IT GO!
Let go of everything from the past year. Yes, it’s important to learn from our mistakes, but endlessly raking over old failures is a surefire way of setting ourselves up to fail again. Let’s concentrate on moving forward, letting go of old baggage and starting the year with a clean slate.
2. Focus on today – we can’t change the past so let’s focus on the here and now. Take a good, hard look at today. What makes you happy right now? What excites you about today? What can you accomplish today that will allow you to fall into bed content with your achievements? How can you make today fulfilling?
Put New Year’s resolutions and goals to one side, just for twenty-four hours, and work on what will make you happy today.
3. Find happiness today – we tend to think of happiness as something that will come to us when we have reached a goal, got a new job, found the right person with whom to share our lives or have ‘enough’ material possessions.
Happiness is not a destination, happiness is possible right here in the present. If we keep waiting for the perfect moment to be happy, happiness may never come. Let’s learn to grab every drop of happiness that falls into each and every day. When you find passion and joy in the fleeting moments of life you cannot help but be happy!
4. Reinvent yourself daily – every day is an opportunity to change yourself and your life. Don’t put off doing what invigorates you. Seek out the things you are passionate about. Forge a path through life that is yours and yours alone.
Change can be frightening, but believe me, I know from personal experience that staying on a path designed by other people will only serve to cripple your spirits.
Every day is a chance for a fresh start. Reinvent yourself every day – don’t wait until next January the 1st. Be the person you were meant to be, show the world your true colours and SHINE!!!!
Remember: no matter how you feel about last year, how many times you messed up or believe you could have done a better job – the very fact that you regret your actions proves that you have the power to change. So let’s grab this New Year by the scruff of the neck and shake every moment of happiness we can out of it!
May I take this opportunity to wish you every joy and happiness for the year ahead. Keep moving forward, keep loving, keep living and keep evolving xx