How To Start Killing Time And Loving The Quiet Moments

How to start killing time and enjoy the quiet moments | Self development in midlife | The Barefaced Chic | Blue split sleeved top, striped blue linen trousers, rose gold small rucksack, sparkle gold sandals.
Have you ever heard someone say that killing time is wrong, and that we should make the most of every moment of our down time? It’s true that every second of life is precious, but is there really anything wrong with doing absolutely nothing?

We are encouraged to make the most of every minute, even when we’re travelling. Got a train journey? Then read a self development book, catch up with old friends, learn a new language, do some work. All great things to do, and it’s not the doing I object to – it’s the feeling that we HAVE to do something. Every. Single. Minute.

How to start killing time and enjoy the quiet moments | Self development in midlife | The Barefaced Chic | Blue split sleeved top, striped blue linen trousers, rose gold small rucksack, sparkle gold sandals.

 

How to start killing time and enjoy the quiet moments | Self development in midlife | The Barefaced Chic | Blue split sleeved top, striped blue linen trousers, rose gold small rucksack, sparkle gold sandals.

How to start killing time and enjoy the quiet moments | Self development in midlife | The Barefaced Chic | Blue split sleeved top, striped blue linen trousers, rose gold small rucksack, sparkle gold sandals.

Learning The Portuguese Art Of Sitting

It was whilst on honeymoon that I observed the joy that is the Portuguese art of sitting. Andrew and I would set off to explore in the morning, observe older gentlemen sitting enjoying the sunshine, and when we returned many, many hours later we would see the very same gentlemen still sitting in the same spots watching the world go by.

Spotting these ardent sitters became a bit of a game to us. How many would we see? How many would return our enthusiastic waves? How many would still be there when we returned from our daily adventures?

Back then, before Andrew broke his back and neck and we reassessed our whole working lives, we were slightly perplexed by the whole ‘not doing anything all day’. As extraordinarily busy people we were used to filling every moment of our day. Downtime included work time, we didn’t really ever completely stop. We even took our laptops on honeymoon – go figure!

This was the mindset we had, and the mindset that is encouraged by society. Every second counts and time should not be ‘wasted’. And as we get older we become very aware of the sands of time spilling though the hourglass of life, which makes the desire to fill every moment stronger.

Now we see things completely differently.

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We used to believe that being productive and not letting a single minute go to waste was the right way to live. It took completely breaking ourselves (not long after Andrew’s accident I broke my coxis) before we began to appreciate that those Portuguese gentlemen had a good thing going!

Life is meant to be lived to the full, moments are meant to be savoured, joy can be found in even the little things, to smile at the small pleasures that enrich our lives is a truly wondrous thing.

It may seem like a good idea to not kill time, but to fill each moment with productivity. Yet is this the way to really live? Our lives have become a non stop treadmill of productive tasks. Our work bleeds into our time off. We are all in danger of becoming cogs in a very unpleasant machine. And who wants to be a cog?

What about lying in the sun with our eyes closed and simply listening to the world go on around us? What about reading a trashy novel, just for the pleasure of reading. What about napping on a journey? What about walking barefoot in the sand? What about spending time with the ones we love unencumbered by productive purpose?

We have the freedom, the freedom to break the chains of productivity. We do not have to improve ourselves every second of every day. Sometimes improvement comes from simply ‘being’.

Now I do realise that some of you will have high pressured jobs and busy lives, I used to be one of you. Yet there are always a few minutes here and there to grab. So start killing time – it’s not a sin. We are not killing time, we’re enjoying it. If doing absolutely nothing brings you joy then do it! Let’s relax, lose ourselves in thought, have a lie in or a lazy Sunday.

We have one life. Let’s make it a life of joy. A life of wonder. A life filled with moments of nothingness. Do let me know what you do to enjoy the nothingness.

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10 Comments

  1. July 10, 2017 / 9:10 pm

    Stunning outfit, love the blue top it suits you so much. Also favouring your hair, how did you achieve this look? It’s very chic. x Jacqui
    http://www.mummabstylish.com

    • July 11, 2017 / 8:50 am

      Thanks Jacqui. I’ll let you into a little secret – it’s not my hair. It’s fake, it looks like a large elastic band with pieces of hair on it. I simply put my hair up and pin it to the top of my head. Takes about two minutes. This one is similar http://bit.ly/2sZKf3D but I don’t wrap it around my hair, I pin it in with lots of hair grips. I might do a video on it. Don’t tell anyone, ha 🙂

  2. July 11, 2017 / 7:16 pm

    Oh I know what you mean! They do that in Italy too, I love it. I don’t really know the term killing time, I do feel like time is racing by though. I yearn for the days I can just sit & daydream again. Although saying that, I definitely don’t wish my children would grow up any faster! Ack it’s a dichotemy. On another note – WOMAN THESE SHOTS! Sorry…ANDREW THESE SHOTS! A.maze.ing!!!
    So so beautiful, the colour, clarity, styling & composition are all superb. You guys are killin’ it xxx

    • July 15, 2017 / 12:04 pm

      I love a good old daydream. Thanks for the lovely comment on our photography, Andrew did a happy dance around the boat!! xx

  3. July 26, 2017 / 9:19 pm

    I agree with MT; these photos are absolutely beautiful. As for killing time, I try to carve out just a few minutes each day to sit and stare out the window while drinking tea or coffee. My soul needs it! I think it is healthy for us (and for our children) to be a little bored sometimes. We can’t have perpetual stimulation, can we? xx

    • August 1, 2017 / 5:12 pm

      I love sitting and looking out the window watching the world go by and daydreaming. As you say, we don’t need perpetual stimulation – a bit of boredom is indeed good for the soul xxx

  4. Anke von der Waterkant
    July 27, 2017 / 3:29 pm

    Dear Michelle and Lisa,
    the “Art of doing Nothing” has been quite a bit on my mind lately. I’ve been having very bad sleeping problems for many, many years. A few weeks ago my taiji teacher said to me “You want too much. You need to learn to allow yourself to be a bit bored now and then.” Now, being bored is something I’ve been trying to avoid like the plague – so this was an interesting thought even though it’s taking a bit to seep in. I’m half convinced it might feel ok to do nothing for a few minutes at least, but I’m also half convined I simply don’t have the time. However, yesterday, coming home from work and shopping I sat down on the porch with my husband and had an oh-so-unreasonable-just-before-dinner icecream. Normally I would have put the groceries in the fridge immediately and started to make dinner. I can’t tell you how good it felt to put that off a bit and simply sit, eat icecream and talk about our day. And you know what? There was still time enough afterwards to get the chores done.
    xxx

    • August 1, 2017 / 5:10 pm

      That’s incredibly good advice. There’s something magical about filling some moments with nothing much – just chatting about the day and relaxing. Hope you enjoy doing a little bit more nothing xxx

  5. August 4, 2017 / 9:22 pm

    Dear Michelle, amazing pitcures – I love your style and the color combinations. Wonderful! I would like to be on the boat too.
    xxx Martina – http://www.lady50plus.de

    • August 7, 2017 / 9:04 am

      Thanks you Martina. It’s wonderful being on the boat, not so wonderful trying to clean it when the tide is rough 🙂
      xx

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