Reasons To Be Confident In Midlife

Midlife comes with changes - both physical and mental. Changes that cause us to doubt our own worth. So how do we be confident in midlife? | Self-development | Standing next to the ocean wearing a burgundy flapper hat | vintage black velvet jacket | bur dungy scarf | burgundy gloves | midlife blog | The Barefaced Chic

We’ve all done it: caught site of ourselves in the mirror and been drawn to our ‘flaws’. It’s an inevitable part of being human – it’s in our nature to seek out imperfections in ourselves. And a certain level of doubt in ourselves is perfectly normal, even healthy. Without the belief that we could be so much ‘better’ we would never possess the motivation to try new things, to evolve. But too much doubt can become all-consuming.

Whether we like or not, midlife comes with changes – both physical and mental. These changes can cause even the most self-confident woman to doubt her own worth, which inevitably has a knockon effect. I have witnessed the most glorious, and utterly fabulous women become completely debilitated by the realisation that ageing is something that happens – without our permission.

Reasons To Be Confident In Midlife

(even when the doubt sets in)

Midlife comes with changes - both physical and mental. Changes that cause us to doubt our own worth. So how do we be confident in midlife? | Self-development |sitting on a bench wearing burgundy flapper hat | vintage black velvet jacket | burgundy scarf | burgundy gloves | midlife blog | The Barefaced Chic

How do we be confident in midlife? | Self-development | looking our over the ocean wearing a burgundy flapper hat | vintage black velvet jacket | bur dungy scarf | burgundy gloves | midlife blog | The Barefaced Chic

1)  Our 40’s, 50’s, 60’s and beyond are completely different from our parents’

Did you ever think about midlife in your younger days? I bet you pictured elastic-waist trousers, grey hair blow-dried to create the perfect ‘helmet’ that would survive even the windiest of days and hours sitting in front of the TV. But we are NOT our parents. Today’s midlifer is more interested in health and fitness, takes better care of herself and is far more connected and engaged in her life. She also wears whatever the hell she wants to! Don’t buy into any preconceived notions you may have about ageing. Now is the time to indulge in our passions, fly a jet, move house, change our lives completely and reinvent ourselves!

2) We have greater self-awareness

We have something that no twenty-something can ever posses: life experience and the time to reflect on what we have learned through those experiences. With this experience and reflection we can truly learn to align our lives with our values, passions and goals. Midlife is the perfect time to connect with the core of who we really are, work to become that person and shine!!

3) We can focus on the important things

It’s very easy to get caught up in ego-driven, superficial nonsense in our young adult years. Money, materials things, how we appear to other people – these tend to be the focus of the young. But as we age we learn what is truly important in our lives. Relationships, fulfilling careers or experiences, continued evolvement and joy in the little things become more pertinent to our happiness.

Black, knee high leather boots with low heel | midlife blog | The Barefaced Chic

Living midlife to the full and wearing burgundy flapper hat | vintage black velvet jacket | bur dungy scarf | burgundy gloves | midlife blog | The Barefaced Chic

Ageing can certainly impact our confidence if we continually focus on our physical changes and loss of youth. But is that any way to live? There’s nothing wrong with fighting the signs of ageing – in fact I’m all for it – buy why dwell on the number of candles on our cake? Instead, focus on the positive aspects of midlife and beyond. And you may find, as I did, that you actually become more confident in midlife.

How has ageing impacted your outlook? Are you confident in midlife, do you focus on the changes in your appearance, or do you appreciate your more mature self? Please do share your thoughts in the comments.

Cheerio.

8 Comments

  1. January 16, 2017 / 3:55 pm

    Michelle, first off, I love your blog’s look! Very nice as well! I think about this and love the points you have made. I think I have become more “comfortable” with myself through the years, happy with the person I am and try to be. My husband and I were talking and facitiously laughing about being “wiser” in our older age, and about things physically changing, and what we can/can not do about it. I do think I have more self-acceptance and less caring about ” what other people think” than when I was younger. ( 20s) I find some of the simplier things make me happy: ie. cuddling with my pups.
    Enjoyed your thoughtful post.

    • January 23, 2017 / 4:56 pm

      Ah I’m so pleased you like it Jess! It was quite a bit of work and sometimes it’s hard to tell if it’s looking good when you do everything yourself.
      As for being wiser in my old age, I think I’ve killed off too many brain cells with fizz 🙂
      xx

  2. January 16, 2017 / 4:28 pm

    Love love love the new Blog Michelle, it’s just stunning! I keep scrolling back & forth over & over, looking & noticing different delights. It’s super easy to navigate & the colours are beautiful – It’s a true reflection of yourself.
    As for this post, well as usual you completely sum it up perfectly. This aging lark isn’t too bad once you get the hang of it right? Good thing we’ve got your level headed sage advice to refer to.
    Keep it coming!
    xxx

    • January 23, 2017 / 4:55 pm

      As you know from redesigning your own blog Michelle, it’s bloody hard work! I’m so glad that we both seem to have our sites sorted and, if I say so myself, I think we’ve both nailed it!
      Ageing is definitely a state of mind – I find medicating mine with fizz now and again helps me forget how many candles are on my cake 😉
      xx

  3. January 20, 2017 / 10:17 am

    Most days, I’m really ok with the ageing thing… I find that from an appearance perspective, nothing is linear and gradual. I’ll look alright for a while and then one day my face suddenly looks so many years older! Then it stays on that plateau for a long time, and then BAM! I look even older. I try to focus on everything that is right in my life… my family, my health, my friends, good weather, a good sweaty session at the gym, and it puts the superficial changes into perspective. As they say, ageing sure beats the alternative. Thank you for such a thoughtful post, Michelle xxx

    • January 23, 2017 / 4:53 pm

      It’s funny, but I sometimes actually jump when I see myself in the mirror. As you say, I’m ok with the ageing but I don’t half get a shock sometimes when I catch my reflection. Ah well, at least I’m still young (some might say adolescent) at heart 🙂
      xxx

  4. Denise
    January 19, 2018 / 3:41 am

    Thank you Michelle I love your blog and I love your outfits. As a much older lady than you (67) I can relate to where you are, but have found that as I have gotten older it has become harder to find clothes that are attractive and fit well and are not “old lady clothes”. I wear a formal uniform to work each day and am totally comfortable in that because I don’t have to consider a daily outfit.
    It is really weird but one day last year I looked in the mirror and actually saw myself as an old lady and was shocked at the aging that had taken place without my noticing. Still young on the inside but the outside decidedly ragged. If you want to preserve your youthful looks my advice would be to limit your exposure to the sun and to exercise regularly, preferably indoors.

    • January 25, 2018 / 6:22 pm

      Thank you Denise. Yes, I know what you mean – I sometimes get a shock when I pass a mirror and see an older lady looking back at me. I will be forever 21 on the inside.

      I use sunscreen every day, even in the Winter. I have a saying, “The only time to leave off the sunscreen is when you are down a mine!”

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