We’ve all done it: caught site of ourselves in the mirror and been drawn to our ‘flaws’. It’s an inevitable part of being human – it’s in our nature to seek out imperfections in ourselves. And a certain level of doubt in ourselves is perfectly normal, even healthy. Without the belief that we could be so much ‘better’ we would never possess the motivation to try new things, to evolve. But too much doubt can become all-consuming.
Whether we like or not, midlife comes with changes – both physical and mental. These changes can cause even the most self-confident woman to doubt her own worth, which inevitably has a knockon effect. I have witnessed the most glorious, and utterly fabulous women become completely debilitated by the realisation that ageing is something that happens – without our permission.
Reasons To Be Confident In Midlife
(even when the doubt sets in)
1) Our 40’s, 50’s, 60’s and beyond are completely different from our parents’
Did you ever think about midlife in your younger days? I bet you pictured elastic-waist trousers, grey hair blow-dried to create the perfect ‘helmet’ that would survive even the windiest of days and hours sitting in front of the TV. But we are NOT our parents. Today’s midlifer is more interested in health and fitness, takes better care of herself and is far more connected and engaged in her life. She also wears whatever the hell she wants to! Don’t buy into any preconceived notions you may have about ageing. Now is the time to indulge in our passions, fly a jet, move house, change our lives completely and reinvent ourselves!
2) We have greater self-awareness
We have something that no twenty-something can ever posses: life experience and the time to reflect on what we have learned through those experiences. With this experience and reflection we can truly learn to align our lives with our values, passions and goals. Midlife is the perfect time to connect with the core of who we really are, work to become that person and shine!!
3) We can focus on the important things
It’s very easy to get caught up in ego-driven, superficial nonsense in our young adult years. Money, materials things, how we appear to other people – these tend to be the focus of the young. But as we age we learn what is truly important in our lives. Relationships, fulfilling careers or experiences, continued evolvement and joy in the little things become more pertinent to our happiness.
Ageing can certainly impact our confidence if we continually focus on our physical changes and loss of youth. But is that any way to live? There’s nothing wrong with fighting the signs of ageing – in fact I’m all for it – buy why dwell on the number of candles on our cake? Instead, focus on the positive aspects of midlife and beyond. And you may find, as I did, that you actually become more confident in midlife.
How has ageing impacted your outlook? Are you confident in midlife, do you focus on the changes in your appearance, or do you appreciate your more mature self? Please do share your thoughts in the comments.