Weight Loss Journey | Week 4 | Am I A Failure?

If I lived my life in pursuit of perfection this week, as far as weight loss is concerned, could be classed as a disaster. The scales say that I haven’t shifted a pound, in fact I have put on weight, which means I have ‘failed’.

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 So Am I A Failure?

Of course not! As I’ve said numerous times before: I am looking towards the goal of health and being a good weight for my height. I’m not interested in losing weight quickly, or berating myself because the scales insist that I have ‘failed’.

This is one of the reasons that I really, really do not like the idea of weighing and measuring myself or my food. I have a pretty good attitude to weight loss – the weight will come off, but I’ll do it in my own time and I will always keep health, moderation and living life to the full at the forefront of my mind.

If the scales tell a tale of ‘failure’ then so what? I KNOW that I ate nutritiously last week, and I feel good. So who cares what the scales say?

I think we have to remember that our weight can change from day to day, and hour to hour. A pint of water weighs a UK pound and a quarter for goodness sake. So if you weigh when your bladder is full, or if you’ve just had a large drink it will skew the scales.

And don’t get me started on what happens when you’re consitpated (around 2lb UK measurement per bowel movement is what you’re hanging onto 😳)

Yesterday I put on a shirt that I couldn’t do up a few weeks ago – it buttoned without a problem. So take that scales, take that!

I do think that the next weigh in may tell a similar tale. I attended the UK Blog Awards over the weekend and, I have to admit, I had a bit of a blow out. Well, my good friend Catherine (Not Dressed As Lamb) scooped the award for best fashion and beauty blogger so it would have been rude not to celebrate 😉

Yet I’ll be OK if I don’t lose weight. I didn’t overeat because I was stressed, to comfort myself or because I was feeling depressed. I went away, ate and drank what I wanted, and had a good time. I believe it’s being aware of why I overeat and taking steps to overcome my trigger points that will get me to my goal – even if it takes a while.

This Week’s Weight Loss Video

Check out what I got up to, including a bit of a peek at The UK Blog Awards and I’ll catch you next time. And remember – be gentle with yourself.

Weight Loss Journey Series: Week 1 | Week 2 | Week 3 | Week 4

18 Comments

  1. Heide V
    April 26, 2017 / 9:15 pm

    I LOVE how smart you are about this and have been learning the same things myself….the weight didn’t arrive overnight and won’t disappear that way either. Healthy and fit and feeling good are what’s important :)

  2. Angela
    April 26, 2017 / 9:22 pm

    My husband and I embarked on a weight loss plan over a year ago. There were many plateau times when it would have been easy to give up but we persisted and won. We’ve lost 11 kilos each and for me that is two dress sizes. It took around 6 months for me and a bit longer for my husband until he retired from his desk job and now does more physical projects at home. Our success was down to cutting out carbs at night and staying away from the odd treat at the weekends. In order for me to lose more I would have to diet and I’m not prepared to do that as history tells me the weight won’t stay off. Happy to be at my natural, holding weight of 65 kilos (10st 3lb) for my 165cm(5ft 5in) height. Keep going for your happy ending.

    • April 28, 2017 / 6:26 pm

      Wow you both did so well! The more success stories I hear, the more determined I am to stick to it. I’ve got at least a dress size to lose, but I’ll get there.
      xx

  3. Wendy
    April 26, 2017 / 9:37 pm

    I put myself on a regime starting Monday, the rules being

    (1) Do some vigorous exercise every day, no matter what. (Doesn’t have to be a lot, but do SOME.)
    (2) Do some strength training every day, no matter what. (Doesn’t have to be a lot, but do SOME.)
    (3) Weigh myself every morning without fail.
    (4) Stick to mainly protein and non-starchy vegetables in small portions spread throughout the day. (Carbs make me so hungry I really have to void them if I want to lose weight. If I ate the carbs you eat, I would be as big as a double decker bus in no time. I don’t even eat so much bread and rice and stuff when I’m not dieting, let alone when I am. But this is just me, and I’m evidently super-affected by carbs in a way most people aren’t.)
    (5) Zero alcohol. (Alcohol directly inhibits the body burning fat, so it’s a very bad idea when dieting.)
    (6) If/when tempted to comfort eat or pig out, instead of capitulating to the urge to over-eat (which I don’t really want to do if I’m trying to lose weight!), sit with that emotion and let it go. Remind myself gently that it will be ok if I don’t capitulate to that maladaptive urge and instead just mindfully accept and notice the urge and let it pass. (Adapted DBT techniques, for anyone familiar with those!)

    On Monday I manages all of 4.5 minutes of Geordie Shore Charlotte’s 3-minute Body Blitz, and it nearly killed me. But hey, you have to start somewhere! You start wherever you ARE, and do a bit more day by day, and this is where I am now: horribly unfit.
    So on Tuesday, I did 6 minutes of the same workout, and today, feeling terrible from lack of sleep, I did 7 minutes. It nearly killed me but I did it. Just do SOME daily, and it will get easier.

    Since Monday morning’s weigh-in I’m 2lbs down, but yesterday I was half a pound up on Monday’s weight. That is the way it goes. In time it will trend down. Consider calculating your 11-day moving average weight instead of just looking at what the scales say that day. I find that helpful when my weight goes up instead of down.

    DO NOT WORRY ABOUT THE SCALES — water weight fluctuates wildly in many women, and I’ve noticed that it is also affected by hormonal variations over the month (and this is pretty much post menopause!). Just keep doing what you’re doing, and it will happen.

    YOU inspired me to start this, so THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART. YOU ARE BRILLIANT.

    • April 28, 2017 / 6:29 pm

      Wendy, I cannot tell you how much this comment means to me. I have been feeling a bit deflated about my blog lately. Nothing I can put my finger on, just wondering if it’s any good and if people are enjoying my ramblings.

      Your comment pulled me out of my doldrums and brightened my day!

      A huge congratulations for deciding to start your regime. Please, please keep in touch and let me know how it’s going and thank you once again for your wonderful words.

      Michelle xx

      • Wendy
        April 30, 2017 / 5:25 pm

        Honestly, Michelle, I LOVE your blog, and YOU motivate ME to keep going! It is a few days’ later, and on one of the days I was horrified to find that the scales said I was 2lb heavier than the preceding day… but then this morning, fully hydrated, AFTER EATING OUT LAST NIGHT INCLUDING MASHED POTATO, 6oz fillet steak and green beans — but no wine or dessert, and not having eaten all day beforehand, but then eating about 150 calsworth (in total) of protein powder and low-carb plain yogurt as a “good” dessert at home later — my weight had dropped half a pound below the previous low 2 days earlier. I did give about half of the mashed potato to my husband but still! Not the kind of thing I usually risk eating, due to the high carb load and nothing really useful nutritionally in it.

        I have done very short and killer HIIT/strength workouts plus some abs daily, and it is still super hard. Cant believe how unfit I am! But I know that if I KEEP GOING, and do a SOME, even if only a BIT, every day, it WILL get easier.

        Don’t get discouraged. It will get easier as we adapt. The trick is to keep at it and not give up. Don’t expect it to happen overnight. Think longer term. Like 6 months or a year.

        And hey, in your case you are lucky in that you look so good now (whereas I’m ashamed to be seen out!!!) so you can still have fun with your outfits. (I love your outfit pix. More please!)

        Wendy

        • May 2, 2017 / 11:13 am

          Wendy you seem to be doing SO well!! It’s really fascinating to read how you are approaching your weight loss journey. Keep the updates coming :)

          I can’t really exercise at the moment until I get the OK from the doctor, but I have walked into my local town a few times. It’s not much but it’s a start. And as you say, even if it’s only a bit every day it will get easier.

          I know that you feel a bit down about the way you look now, and I do get it. But do remember how unique you are and that you are well down the road to improving the way you look and feel. Believe me, if it wasn’t for the angle of some of the shots, the underwear I have on and a lot of sucking in I wouldn’t look half as good as I do in my outfit shoots. I’m actually thinking of putting a blog post together with before and after shots showing what I look like if I don’t take measures to look my best in pics.

          Keep up the good work.

          Michelle xx

  4. Jane Scott Paul
    April 27, 2017 / 11:07 am

    It took me 18 months to lose 30 pounds and I have maintained my new weight for over a year now. That period included some plateaus which always knock your confidence but with some small adjustments (a bit more activity, fewer carbs, fish rather than meat for a while) you can keep on track. The best bit is that for the first time in a long life of yoyo dieting, my habits have really changed and it is not an effort to eat in a sustainable healthy way. My treat of choice is now three squares of expensive dark chocolate rather than a Snickers bar. Keep at it – it is worth it. Now 65, I’m the size I was at 25 just wish I had done it sooner.

    • April 28, 2017 / 6:33 pm

      Well done on the weight loss Jane, you must feel so much better without it!

      If I stick to 80% eating to nourish my body and 20% eating what I want then my weight usually stays the same. It’s when I start eating due to stress and worry for long periods that the weight piles on. So, for now (at least most of the time), the treats are gone until I get back to a healthier size.

      I’ll get there xx

  5. April 27, 2017 / 12:29 pm

    Brilliant post, Michelle! I’m glad you’re not berating yourself because the scales gave you some bulls**t! I hate scales, always have. I’ve never taken any notice of what they say. The way clothes fit and how you feel is a far better way to gauge how you’re doing and you’re clearly doing FAB! Keep up the great work :)
    Suzy xx
    http://www.suzyturner.com

    • April 28, 2017 / 6:34 pm

      A fellow scales hater! I only bought them in order to do the vlogs – I hadn’t weighed myself for 6 years before that. I agree – how clothes feel is a far better way.
      xxx

    • LinC
      April 29, 2017 / 12:31 pm

      Michelle love your blog, your’e a real find, love your ‘ramblings’. I’m still fighting the weight loss journey in my 60s (somehow managed to stay very strict with myself for over 40 years after a significant weight loss in my 20s) and since retiring have felt a little more like enjoying food for once and not calorie counting forever. I’m slowly now getting there and your blog is inspiring – just because you don’t try to be perfect!

      • April 29, 2017 / 1:47 pm

        Thank you, I think there are too many ‘perfect’ airbrushed lives out there on the internet – I like to try to keep it real :)
        Well done on keeping the weight of for so long and thank you for your lovely comment.
        Michelle xx

    • April 30, 2017 / 8:08 am

      I was going to say exactly that Suzy! You did it for me ;-)
      Michelle is a complete stunner & a wonderful writer, I’m sure most women envy her secretly…

  6. Jodie Wood
    April 27, 2017 / 6:10 pm

    So glad I could help! Thanks for the shout out! I love your weekly updates and am also trying hard to eat clean as well as NOT eat emotionally which I am also prone to whilst also allowing myself to enjoy the odd treat to keep life fun. Funnily enough that would be wine, fizz or a takeaway!! Consequently I have been reading each week and following the weight loss mainly to remind myself to be sensible and to go slow as your attitude is so refreshing and sensible. Well, by my reckoning you didn’t actually put on this week even with the fab weekend away. If you look back it was 10.3, 10 and a little bit, then another two which would be roughly 9.13 and then post blow out on stones and pounds 9.13!!!! So your instinct was quite right!! Now if I can just manage that for my weigh in that will be great!

    • April 28, 2017 / 6:38 pm

      Seriously? I keep saying I’m rubbish at maths! Now that you’ve sorted my scales for me I should be more accurate in future vlogs – hopefully :)

      I do think it can be all too easy to be hard on ourselves and get upset by what the scales say. But it’s just a number, I feel better and that’s got to be a good thing.

      Thanks for reading/watching and for saving my poor brain!

      Michelle xx

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