Is It Time To Kick The Bucket List?

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When we were young and spring began to chase away the frost of winter, we made wish lists. We would see the summer holidays creeping towards us and we would make a mental or physical list of all the things we would do during our precious time away from school, college or university.

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We dreamed of sunny days, lying on the beach, travelling and experiencing new things. Yet, as it always seemed to do, the summer flew by. As the end of August rolled around, our thoughts turned to new pencil cases, text books and stuffy classrooms. We would be filled with regret at the things we didn’t do with our free time, and we vowed the we would definitely be more pro-active the following year.

Now that we are in our midlife years, a lot of us have started to make bucket lists. And some of us are finding that many of the things that we swore we would experience in our teenage years are migrating to those lists. But what are the chances of achieving the things we have pledged to do?

Are we really going to push ourselves to try new things, taste new foods or travel the world simply because we have written a list? I would say probably not, just like those dreamy summer promises.

The big difference between the summer hopes of our younger selves and the bucket lists we are making now is time. Youth is blissfully ignorant of the sand trickling through the hourglass of life. They see an endless stretch of summertimes to fill with dreams. With age comes the rather unpleasant knowledge that our time on this earth is certainly not finite.

By filling our tomorrows with wish lists are we putting off experiencing the glory that each and every day may hold? Are we placing too much emphasis on the things we want to do rather than the things we can do?

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There is absolutely nothing wrong with dreaming, hoping or planning. In fact, having a deep desire to achieve or experience something new can make our futures shine brighter. But don’t fill your whole life with hopes; fill it with the wonder that is the here and now. Fill it with the small things that make you smile. Fill it with new experiences that you CAN achieve. Fill it with a life lived so completely it makes you happier than anything written on a bucket list ever could.

The are no ‘do overs’, no next life to try again. So let’s live for today, make every moment count and enjoy our lives. Maybe it’s time to kick the bucket – the bucket list that is?

Cheerio.

 

14 Comments

  1. March 20, 2017 / 3:12 pm

    Such a beautifully written and poignant post, Michelle. It really made me think. Although I don’t have any bucket lists per se, I am guilty of looking into the future rather than living the here and now. I really need to stop doing that so much and enjoy the life I’m living right now. Thank you for reminding me of that <3
    You look gorgeous in these photos by the way <3
    Suzy xx
    http://www.suzyturner.com

    • March 20, 2017 / 3:26 pm

      It’s something I’m guilty of too Suzy. It’s sometimes hard to remember to live in the here and now. Mind you, the here and now is wet, cold and miserable so I’ll forgive myself for looking forward to a bit of spring sunshine.
      Thank you for the compliment lovely lady xx

  2. Joanna
    March 20, 2017 / 3:27 pm

    I don’t have a bucket list. I’ve travelled in my younger years and raised three happy, healthy, successful children that like to hang with us. I’m married to the love of my life who makes me laugh every day. I have a home and garden I love, a boat that takes us on adventures in the quiet beauty of the Pacific Northwest. I enjoy hiking and kayaking, reading a good book and enjoying a good bottle of wine with friends. No bucket list needed here. I’m enjoying the here and now.

    • March 20, 2017 / 4:11 pm

      It’s wonderful to know that you are living such and awesome life Joanna! It sounds like you’re having plenty of adventures. We have a boat and there’s nothing better than cracking open a bottle, listening to the sea and chatting with friends.
      Cheers to not having a bucket list :)
      Michelle xx

  3. March 20, 2017 / 4:24 pm

    I also have no bucket list. There are not so many things I really want to do. I just want to be happy, (grow a bit with my little blog) go so many times as possible to the UK, and just enjoy and appreciate every day. Of course with my best friend, my partner Gerben.
    Those are very nice photos, you look very relaxed and beautiful!

    • March 20, 2017 / 6:39 pm

      Thank you so much Nancy! Its funny, you want to come to the UK as much as possible, and I want to leave :)
      Michelle xx

  4. Rozanne
    March 21, 2017 / 4:53 pm

    What a wonderful post, couldn’t agree more with your sentiments! I always find the greatest contentment lies in the apparently small and everyday – pottering with my son, hanging out the washing on a sunny day to a soundtrack of birdsong, sharing the sofa with my dog, just watching the world go by over a coffee… the list goes on, doesn’t it? Have never had a bucket list, thank you for reassuring me that you don’t need one in order to feel fulfilled!

    • March 23, 2017 / 9:31 am

      I so enjoy the little things in life. The smell of breakfast being cooked for me on the weekend, snuggling up on cold Winter’s evening, spending time with family. I think bucket list are fine, as long as we don’t lose sight of the joy that’s in every day.
      Thanks for you comment Roxanne
      Michelle xx

  5. March 21, 2017 / 7:21 pm

    You are onto something here mate. You’ve made me think that a bucket list is almost like forcing yourself into the life you thought you should have lived. I never had a bucket list because I’ve spent my whole life trying to do the exciting things that would have gone into one.
    I suppose this year is sorta like a bucket list, it being my 50th. Although it’s more that I decided to do xyz for my 50th so I will. Mostly it involves weekend trips & restaurants I want to try, not so much sky diving or absailing.
    There you go again making me think!
    Another great post MLD thanks xx

    • March 22, 2017 / 6:07 pm

      I do like getting those little grey cells working Michelle. I think bucket lists are all well and good – IF you actually do the things on them. It so sad when I see people making bucket lists of things they’ll never do and not seeing the joy in the little things in life.
      Michelle xx

  6. March 23, 2017 / 10:10 am

    Great post Michelle. I am so guilty of this and yet am still planning a list for next year. My 60th year . Oh dear! X

    • March 24, 2017 / 5:56 pm

      Nothing wrong with lists Gail, as long as you do what’s on them! I see so many people making bucket lists and then not doing anything on them. I can’t believe you’re 60 next year!! Looking good :)
      Michelle

  7. April 6, 2017 / 10:14 am

    So well written and poignant. I am stuck in the middle at the moment of wanting purpose and a bucket list & trying to go with the flow – food for thought! #BrilliantBlogPosts

    • April 6, 2017 / 8:21 pm

      It’s a difficult balance Laurie. I think making a bucket list, but making sure to also live in the moment and dream life away it the probably way to go xx

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